NEW VOCABULARY

My wife and I have been working on communication. We came across a transactional analysis (TA) diagram that psychologists use to teach communication. According to TA the gist of communication works like so:

Parents say/use words like: ought or should
Adults say/use words like: will, can, choose, plan, think & decide
Children say/use words like: want, try, can't & feel

you can get a better idea of how it works here: TransactionalAnalysis.gif




So, in order to have an adult to adult conversation you use adult words. If you use said words, both parties communicate properly.
If you use parental words, the other person will typically respond as a child.
ex.- (parent) you should clean your room. (child) I don't feel like it. OR (parent) you ought to read more books instead of playing video games. (child) I don't want to.

This word chart smacked me upside the head! I had been unknowingly been speaking to my wife as if I was her parent, and her responses reflected it.
As I was contemplating this dilemma... Eureka! A light bulb lit above my head.

Religion speaks to us as a parent speaks to a child. "You should go to church every sunday" "you ought to read your bible every day" "you should keep the ten commandments" and we respond with: "I try so hard to do what's right but I can't" or "I don't feel like reading today" or "I feel like I can't beat this sin"

We get so focused on the "dos and dont's" that we forget all about the relationship. Religion keeps you dependent on itself so you can't think on your own. God wants a relationship not a regiment (see Gen.1-3).

The bible "Gods word"(which religion makes more important than the holy spirit,stay tuned for my blog on the new trinity-God, Jesus and the holy bible) is explicit and has many examples/illustartions on transitioning from milk (babys food) to Meat (adult food)
1 cor 3:2 I gave you milk, not solid food, for you were not yet ready for it. Indeed, you are still not ready. 
Heb 5:12-13 In fact, though by this time you ought to be teachers, you need someone to teach you the elementary truths of God’s word all over again. You need milk, not solid food!  Anyone who lives on milk, being still an infant, is not acquainted with the teaching about righteousness




Basically, We are supposed to transition from being taught by religion to having a personal relationship.

Why is it that God desires something completely different from us than what religion is teaching?

Are you sick of being treated like a baby by religion. Tired of being dependent on rules in order to be in right standing with God? I think the rest of the world would have a different outlook on Christians if religion would quit being our parent.

Looks like its time for religion to adopt a new vocabulary.